There we go

San Goku
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Re: There we go

Post by San Goku » Tue Jan 14, 2020 5:23 pm

Okay you are looking at it from that point of view. We have a large community of South-East Asians and Asians (India, Shr'Lanka, China, Korea, etc) in Toronto and it's like that too, especially the Indian culture. Actually now that it's hard for most millennials to own a home they are still living at home and some even have kid(s) under the same roof with their parents.

Even though there is a cultural differences it wouldn't hurt them to take a second and see how you feel and think.

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Re: There we go

Post by xandorxerxes » Tue Jan 14, 2020 5:42 pm

San Goku wrote:
Tue Jan 14, 2020 2:30 am
Don't ruin our fun
I'm practicing for my dream career of chief buzzkill officer.
Digital Masta wrote:
Mon Jan 13, 2020 11:36 pm
Yeah, well men and women are different and a guy having a lot of sex with different women isn't exactly the same as a woman having a lot of sex with different guys (it's still not good in the long wrong for both but it's worse for women). I mean hell...new studies show that the more partners a woman has the higher the risk of divorce.

https://ifstudies.org/blog/counterintui ... -stability
We really have to get you better sources. I appreciate that the blog cites its sources. I don't appreciate that its sources are... itself (a biased organization) and things like before-i-do.org. It did have a reference to an actual study that it claims supports it, but the study actually draws the opposite conclusion. Namely, that premarital sex by itself has NO indicators of future marital success. Women who had premarital sex AND premarital cohabitation in multiple relationships before marriage had a higher divorce rate, which seems reasonable because if you're at that kind of relationship and can't make it work multiple times before getting married, being actually married probably isn't going to eliminate that every time. I also note that they're citing an article from 2004, I imagine because the writer thinks it backs his or her stance, and not one of the 112 articles that have cited it since (and likely don't).

The same paragraph then says that a study from the 80s (again, not one of the thousands in the last decade) found "similar results." Here are the results from the study they linked:
The 3 aspects of personality most strongly related to marital outcome were the neuroticism of the husband, the neuroticism of the wife, and the impulse control of the husband. The remaining variance was accounted for by attitudinal, social-environment, and sexual history variables. (29 ref)
So... not similar at all, unless you're willing to count a "remaining variance" as a "sole determining cause."

The worst part is the author's own research - not that the research they did was bad, but that they're lying to you about what their data says. Table 1 literally says that the results for higher number of partners for women (11-20, 21+) aren't statistically significant from 1 partner... but then it assumes them as truth anyways. No statistical significance in the difference means just that... that for the data in their findings, women with 1 partner and women with 21+ partners have no real difference in outcomes. Men, amusingly, had worse outcomes the more partners they had (with statistical significance), which again seems to be the opposite of the point of the article (or at least, your use of the article).

If the writer were honestly misunderstanding these articles or the data, I'd actually appreciate them for taking the effort to do their research. However, given that this site is supposedly a think-tank, I'm inclined to believe that they understand very much what these sources and data are saying and are deliberately misconstruing the results.

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Tue Jan 14, 2020 10:02 pm

You could just google the topic yourself and look at the other things that pop up if you're that interested. I just posted one of the links, but you're missing the forest for the trees in that general post. Killa mentioned him likely having been with more women that she has men and I was pointing out that 1) I wasn't calling her a 'ho for those reasons but for trying to bait a married man and 2)Sex isn't the same and doesn't have the same outcomes for men and women.

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Re: There we go

Post by killacross » Wed Jan 15, 2020 9:09 am

...now to blow your collective minds

was talking with Ms Thickums yesterday. She has family in Puerto Rico. PR had a 6.4 earthquake last week and 6.1 aftershock this weekend. Her family (mother and brother/his family) were impacted. Her sister is not (lives on the other side of the island). Her other sister is staying with her temporarily after relocating from FL to NC. Anywhoo...the plan is for her family to stay with her short term in the US while they sort PR out (they are with the one sister and her husband/son in their 2 BR/1Ba apt right now - 9 people). Obviously wont work long term.

Ms Thickums presents as this very tough, very strong, very independent woman (even though she's married, she/her husband have this crazy dynamic when it comes to money -- his money is his, her money is hers. When they want to spend on their daughter...they do it separately...just crazy IMO).

Listening to her and watching her talk...it was weird to see the emotion and anxiety and stress flood over her. It was visible on her face and body language. As she talked, she actually broke down and started crying -- just thinking about having to pay their rent, buy plane tickets, and misc bills etc etc...and she just can't do it. She can't support 8 people on her salary long term. Is she a bad person because she doesn't want them to come? Is she a bad person because she KNOWS her brother isn't man enough to step up and do this long term? etc etc

She's never been so vulnerable around me before. She was fighting back the tears, fighting back the frustration, and fighting the emotion. Then just let it out. Anyway, seeing her in that state was honestly endearing. I was genuinely moved.

I asked if I can do something nice for her and it not be weird? She said sure (thinking I was gonna give her advice or a hug). I carry a lot of cash on me...so I gave her $2500 (which should cover plane tickets at least, hopefully more).

That was an even weirder response. She went from offended (thinking that I saw her as a charity case), to angry (that she/her family would encroach upon my life/family), to sad (that she didn't want to owe me anything and wasn't sure when/how/if she could pay me back) and was finally moved to tears (again). I said it obviously is not a loan. I want to help her family...as an extension of caring about her. Only string is that in 5, 10 years...she looks out into her community and when she sees someone else who is trying to do the right, but life throws a curveball -- Step in and HELP.

She said that she has never had someone help her before...it usually falls on her to bail her family out...and they just keep taking and taking and asking for more and more. I can relate. She wrote me this long text about how I am such a great person and such a big heart and she is so grateful that I am in her life and it was no coincidence that we met and yada yada. I realized that she doesn't know me at all. I am probably one of the most heartless people she's ever met. I did it only because it was her. I could watch most of my other coworkers drown. Not to sound like a snob...intellectually, I know it is "a lot" of money...but $2.5k doesn't even register with me emotionally anymore. So, how could I ignore her in "need" when I could easily help and it means absolutely nothing to me (I think it is <0.6% of my cash and <0.3% of my NW. Also, we just transferred in another $25k to my daughter's UTMA acct last Monday. We are all solid here!)

...I'll update if things get weird today.

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Wed Jan 15, 2020 12:24 pm

Oh...you're so getting closer to banging and it scares me.

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Re: There we go

Post by killacross » Wed Jan 15, 2020 2:26 pm

:shock: Ya know. The biggest deterrent is that she commutes an hr to work. I live 10 miles from site.

If we both lived in the same area...thered be more of a concern. The way it is now.. I wait for my inlaws to leave.. Then we take a lunch break at my house. Or I use some of my 500k hotel points and rent a room a few times.

I told you I've thought about it too much... But I wouldn't act on it to that extent

OH yea.. I told my wife I was giving her the money. Not hiding it. She asked why? Then said OK., just this once. I said.. If I can subsidize premium cellphones for entitled minors by paying for their needs instead... I can help a coworker with an act of God.

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Fri Jan 17, 2020 7:28 am

This would all be fine if your wife was down for a threesome.

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Re: There we go

Post by killacross » Fri Jan 17, 2020 11:14 am

hmm...I've had the pleasure to have 3 threesomes in my youth. All 3 were awkward as fuck....But the 1st time. Ugh. the two girls were kissing. Pulled out my meat. First girl kissed it. Licked it...second girl took it. Kissed it. Put her mouth on it...and then choked as I shot down her throat.
...wildest 10 seconds of my life. Still haunts me to this day.

2nd time was uneventful really. Barely remember it. And we were drinking so sometimes I wonder if I was imagining. Honestly if I wasnt drinking...it probably wouldnt have happened. They were both 4/10s.

Last one did in a relationship. We weren't really dating...but we were "exclusive" (kinda a FWB thing -- but I really liked her). Drinking again and I think it was her idea honestly. It was her best friend and roommate. I came same time/with her best friend. Apparently, she couldn't handle that. Then all the crazy, CRAZY jealous accusations came and the relationship spiraled from there. We were together like 8 months...and done in like a week afterwards. Then she started stalking me and such. The roommate contacted me like 2 yrs later. I smashed again...and then we went our separate ways.

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Fri Jan 17, 2020 12:15 pm

So what I'm hearing is that killa lays pipe.

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Re: There we go

Post by killacross » Fri Jan 17, 2020 3:39 pm

I was a ho in a previous life. It was my biggest red flag in relationships

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Re: There we go

Post by San Goku » Sat Jan 18, 2020 12:23 am

ur wife needs to allow u to smash Ms Thickums ( I really love this name by the way lol) for your birthday lol.

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Sat Jan 18, 2020 12:47 am

San is that friend you don't want when you're wanting someone to stop you from doing something you'll regret.

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Re: There we go

Post by killacross » Sat Jan 18, 2020 12:49 pm

Yea.. He gives all around bad advice
I assume it's a joke... But ya never know

Generally.. Just do the opposite of his advice and jackpot

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Re: There we go

Post by San Goku » Sat Jan 18, 2020 4:10 pm

I USUALLY give good advice but ya, don't listen to me with that stuff.

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Sat Jan 18, 2020 10:56 pm

Yo guys, why is Meghan Markle fucking up everyone's shit in the royal family. I mean...this bitch is like a wrecking ball. She clearly didn't understand what it meant to be royalty (in any country really). You have certain duties and certain ways you have to act, there is no choice and when Queen Elizabeth tells you something, you shut the fuck up and listen. She wanted all that status with none of the responsibility which is kinda typical feminist wokeness and it doesn't help Americans look any better.

Harry...man the fuck up, dude. She's clearly in charge of that relationship...this ain't even a team effort, she running shit.


This is just my uninformed non-British opinion but I hear the British aren't to happy with Meghan.

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Re: There we go

Post by killacross » Sat Jan 18, 2020 11:04 pm

... San is lucky the old site is gone
.. If we could pull up his post history logs
Oooh jesus

@DM..i just assume she has killer old lady puss. What's a ginger supposed to do? And if he wanted to follow protocol.. He should have married a cousin - - jus sayin'

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Sat Jan 18, 2020 11:35 pm

Yeah...I'm just rolling my eyes at the whole "It's because she's black!" narrative that's getting pushed. No, it's not. She's fucking with hundreds upon hundreds of years (really thousands of years) of protocol and culture just so she can insert her wants and desires into it. Lady, you don't get wants and desires when you're a royal. It's a really pretty prison but now she wants to still kinda be a royal but then do her own thing. That's some entitled bullshit right there.

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Re: There we go

Post by superbob » Sun Jan 19, 2020 12:32 am

especially when you don't marry the heir, just the younger brother of the heir. Just gotta suck it up like any job and do it

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Re: There we go

Post by Digital Masta » Sun Jan 19, 2020 9:03 am

And I don't know if she's actually this way but she seems to be using classic techniques of people that want to dominate their significant other. One of those being to separate them from their family and friends in order to isolate and control them. Apparently he's become rather preachy, distant and woke, the riff between him and his brother developing, moving out of the palace (I forgot what palace they lived in as Duke and Duchess) now Moving to Canada? Whose fucking idea was that really? Harry's? Come on.

Then there's this classic moment:

https://youtu.be/uudnF36jH0A?t=69

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Re: There we go

Post by Colep924 » Sun Jan 19, 2020 8:26 pm

Fireforce is dope. So Shinra is basically The Flash, bad-fucking-ass.

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